Guess who’s back? Bonnie Blue is once again pissing people off and getting dragged for it on social media. This time, one of her fellow OnlyFans content creators is upset with her and isn’t at all shy about saying so. Bonnie Blue famously claimed that women who don’t “treat” their husbands to sex are lazy and deserve to be cheated on. Lily Phillips, who may have famously knocked boots with a fan who brought his girlfriend along for their planned encounter, has a big problem with Bonnie’s assertion that women have only themselves to blame for philandering husbands.
Bonnie made her initial controversial statement during an interview on the Kyle and Jackie O Show. Her claim that “lazy” wives are to blame for their husbands choosing to cheat was met with swift and immediate backlash. Her statement, “If you don’t treat your man, he’ll find someone who will,” has become irrevocably tied to the OnlyFans star, for better or for worse. For Blue, it’s likely for better. The adult entertainer has a tendency to make bank when her name is mud online, so it’s highly likely that Blue made the statement in the first place to produce the result she’s now enjoying. It’s hard to blame people for taking the bait, though, because nothing says “healthy relationship” quite like fear-driven sexual interaction.
Lily Phillips is one of the commenters who took the bait. The fellow OnlyFans star was quick to try and take Blue down a notch because if there’s one thing that sex workers know, it’s that perpetuating harmful stereotypes is bad for everyone. She made the point that no one owes anyone sex, certainly not out of any sense of guilt or obligation. Lily was ready and willing to remind the world that women are human beings, not living, breathing sex machines that owe their partners action at the drop of a hat.
In an era where women the world over are fed up with providing for men while seeing little to no benefit on their side of the equation, it makes sense that Blue’s statement went over like a lead balloon. Phillips’ assertion that women don’t owe men anything—sex, emotional labor, children, etc.—has made quite the splash. Bonnie Blue’s remarks only reinforce a harmful stereotype that fails to reflect the progress women have made toward equality. Those remarks are toxic and do not at all reflect a world in which both men and women share the responsibility for maintaining intimacy in a relationship. They also reflect the outdated idea that men are unstoppable monsters who can’t control themselves if they aren’t given a certain amount of sex. That’s simply not how healthy relationships work. It’s 2024—let’s stop blaming men’s bad behavior on women and start placing the blame where it belongs: on the man who chooses to cheat.
Bonnie Blue may have tried to start a firestorm with her statement, but Lily Phillips certainly knew how to douse the flames. Next time, instead of taking the rage bait, scrollers might choose to deny Blue the satisfaction of giving her outdated statements credence. Healthy relationships are built on trust and mutual respect, not guilt and obligation sex. If this recent OnlyFans feud shows us anything, it’s that women don’t owe men a damn thing—certainly not sex.
